Tools for Taming Your Ego with Jan Luther

It's that nagging little voice in your head that keeps you up at night worrying about all the stupid stuff you can't change.

It wears you down during the day judging yourself and everyone around you, complaining and comparing your life to everyone else's.

The ego thrives on sucking your energy away from your goals and dreams - all in the name of protecting you from embarrassment or failure.

Like you, I have struggled to overcome the influence of that voice all my life. At one point I suffered from migraine headaches and chronic back pain. I was depressed, overweight (I weighed 250 pounds) and was afraid of my own shadow.

In 2000, I made a decision to take back control of my life and I used sheer willpower to drop 75 pounds, start applying all of the Law of Attraction teachings I had been studying for 15 years, and to GET A LIFE.

I am happy to report that I did it! In fact, I became a Holistic Life Skills Coach, I found EFT^® and I began a marvelous journey of healing my wounded spirit and rejuvenating my soul.

I want to help you liberate your spirit and rejuvenate your soul by teaching you how to tame your ego!

I was well on my way to living my dreams when one August morning in 2006 I was awakened at 3:30 in the morning by a phone call.

A State Patrolman was telling me that my son had been in a car accident and that I needed to get to the hospital as soon as I could. My husband and I, dazed and frightened, hustled our way to the emergency room.

We were met at the door by a State Trooper who reluctantly handed me a tiny little zippered pouch as he said "I am sorry, you son didn't make it."

I was staring at the tassel on the patrolman's hat. I could sense my husband standing beside me. It felt like I couldn't suck in any air.

(You can read more about my personal experience of coping during those first few days in my book, "Grief Is...Mourning Sickness." (The revised version will be released July 1st.)

Over the next year I met my EGO morning, noon and night. It was all out war. At times, I literally thought I was losing my mind.

My EGO would push me into denial thinking, "Why is this happening to me?" I love God. I have been a servant of humanity. I am honest, hard working, love my husband and my children. What did I do to deserve this?"

Oh, that EGO is clever. Using all my "good" qualities to try and convince me that I should be exempt from life experiences.

As you might imagine, there was very little sleeping. My EGO gave me every reason to be filled with hate and anger at God and my family; at life. It wanted me to give up. At times, the physical pain was more than I thought I could bear.

I had to quickly increase my EGO Taming tactics. Resisting EGO when you are exhausted, depressed and you are aching, body and soul, takes sheer determination.

One thing I learned that was extremely helpful was that I learned to treat every EGO attack as a temptation. I became very good at talking with my EGO and gently inviting that angry, fearful voice to consider that I always had a choice.

Whenever I would hear the EGO making a decision from pain or anger, I would simply ask myself, "How will I feel and what will I get if I choose one option over another?" For example:

When someone would say something that hurt my feelings, I would ask myself: "Do I really believe that they are trying to hurt me? Can I imagine that they are trying to offer a word of encouragement? If I get angry and walk away or attack them, what will happen next? If I push them away, might I end up lonely and comfortless? Maybe when I am clearer, I can talk about what I WISH they would say or do instead of this."

Which will I choose? Attack them or forgive them and believe they are just trying to help?

If I choose to not work with clients, what might I get? I might spend all day dwelling on my pain and feeling sorry for myself. If I do work with clients, maybe I can keep my energy up. I know tapping always makes me feel better.

Don't get me wrong. I gave myself time and permission to lie in the bed when appropriate. I created time and opportunities to get the anger and pain out with tapping, talking and screaming.

And, yes, there was screaming; mostly when I was alone in my car at the cemetery. Some of you reading this know that sound. It is the most haunting, primal sound...it chills me to know those sounds came out of this body through this voice that has always been devoted to bringing peace and comfort to others.

There is another voice inside of us; the voice of our Soul or Authentic Self. That voice is connected to our God/Creator and that voice has wisdom and courage and insights for our life. That voice will answer when we call for help. In every moment of agony, we can be lifted, inspired and directed.

The "peace that surpasses understanding" is always available, but the Spirit waits for us to ask for it.

So, after living this and many other challenges and finding myself in a unique position to share the path to victory over EGO, I realize that it is my mission to teach others what I have learned about taming the EGO or voice of the flesh. I know that voice would like to steal your sanity, rob you of your joy and cheat you out of your destiny if you do not take authority over it.

Each of my courses includes simple-to-follow and easy-to-apply formulas for counteracting typical EGO interferences (or is that Inner-Fear-ance?).

Whether your primary frustration is with your finances, relationships, self-esteem or coping with trauma, loss and change, there is a course to help you tame your EGO.

Not sure yet? Let's get a clearer picture of the havoc that ego loves to create in our lives...

Debbie had a snake phobia - Listen to Debbie as she explains what happened when she (skeptically, I might add) showed up to learn some of these tools in one of my trainings.

I had the blessing of going to one of [Jan's] EFT trainings last October. I was a skeptic who was going out of obligation. What happened was a miraculous healing for me. The word phobia is too mild for me with the situation that I had with my fear of snakes. It had been instilled in me since I was five years old. I couldn’t look at them in a book, I couldn’t see them on TV and God forbid that I might see one in real life. I would hyperventilate, pass out, get sick; there are just not enough words to explain the fear that I had of snakes...

During the class I mentioned my snake phobia and [Jan} said, "Let's adress that." My life was changed instantly in that manner. I have now stood by snakes, taken pictures.

ALSO I had had major surgery on my knee. I left and for the first time in 2 years I was able to walk up and down stairs.

EFT not only changed me physically, but now it has changed me emotionally. I am able to set goals, follow through and be more. - Debbie Matthews

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I came to see Jan to get more gumption. By that I mean it was hard for me to say "no" to people. Being a leader, I was being pulled around by "this person" and "that person" trying to please everybody and I came to the conclusion I couldn't please anybody, and especially myself, because I felt like I was compromising in every area of my life and people took advantage of that.

And for me to go forward, I had to say no to a lot of people that were in a state of shock when I told them no. It gave me more strength and more confidence in who I am and it gave me more determination to go in the direction I needed to go.

I thank the Lord for Jan and that she used her talents and her abilities to help people get past these stumbling blocks. - Trudy Chandler

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Ellie shares how her husband, an engineer, had a change of heart just by listening to a recording of one of my classes: Building Indestructible Self Worth.

“I think the best thing that I got out of this was in your class on Building Indestructible Self Worth...when I heard it I thought it might be helpful to my husband who was giving me a hard time about this EFT stuff, this left brained, , genius type of guy who’s an engineer and it doesn’t quite fit his mindset. SO I downloaded the recording onto his GPS and asked him to listen to this on his way home from work. When he came home he was near tears, he had gotten his issue out of the way... it cleared right up and he talked about how spiritual and how near to the heart this work was. So the biggest blessing for me was that I got my husband to change his view about what we do.” - Ellie

Listen as Ellie shares how just one hour of this class changed her husband's heart forever.

Andrea had just opened her new practice when she signed up for my Plugging Into Financial Prosperity course. Her business DOUBLED once we tamed her ego around money.

Andrea Dobrich “I took Jan’s [money matters class] and I began to realize the monetary worth of my services. What I learned increased my confidence in asking for full fees. And since I finished the class I have doubled the number of new patients that I see each week.

Taking this incredible class with Jan impacted how I handle the finances in my practice as well as how I handle my personal finances. Now when I am paying my bills I am no longer stressed out wondering if I am going to have enough money from week to week. Thanks Jan!!” - Dr. Andrea Dobrich

Check out her web site at www.dobrichchiropractic.com.

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These are just a few of the hundreds of clients that are living bigger, happier, juicier lives after learning and applying these tools for taming their ego.